Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Curly Q's




I have a confession - I'm terrified of my wedding hair. Irrationally so. I have nightmares where my hair is teased into a 1950's buffant or slicked back a la flamingo dancers. For most people a simple bun or chignon is not a scary proposition but for me it gives me cold sweats-up all night anxeity. Let me explain. 

I have been blessed with naturally curly hair- not wavy- not kinky- but full tight thick curls. After years of tearful detangling sessions as a child, a few awkward middle school styles, and four years of straightening or pulling back my curls in high school, I learned to love and except my hair. I care for it dearly and where it curly 99% of the time. I have also become fiercely possesive of it. Which brings  me to my fear. 

I have never, in my 28 years on earth, walked out of a salon satisfied with my hair style. 
 
I have had many lovely stylist. It was nothing personal. Its just that each and every one of them have underestimated my hair. They underestimate the tightness  of my curls. They underestimate the amount of product needed to control my hair. They underestimate what just a "little bit of teasing" can do to my hair.  I can only imagine what will happen at my wedding hair trial. which brings me to my second confession

Despite my big mouth- I am whimp in salons. I always feel like cutting and styling my hair was such a Herculean effort that complaining would be....rude. This shocks many of my friends but the fact remains.... I cannot speak up in the salons. 

Okay  so call the wahhhh- bulance right. 

My future sister - in- law, herself a stylist, recommends that I try to find loads and loads of inspiration pictures to help me articulate what I am really looking for. I am clipping all of the images I can find, but many of these styles are designed for straighties. Like this elegant updo

Here's a couple I managed to clip from the knot





Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Showing Off the Goods

So after my whiny posts about my Jcrew bridesmaid dress, I suppose I should show off the dream dresses. After seeing far too many poor fitting maid dresses I decided to leave some room for personal choice and comfort. I went for the "coke or pepsi" philosophy - or building in personal choice while controlling the outcome by dictating the terms. Can you see my political science roots?? So rather than asking my brides to pick a "tea lenght yellow dress" I am asking them to choose one of these three dresses. I tried to pick three styles that fit all different body types.

strapless

Empire Waist




Thick straps and cinched at the waist.





I think they are lovely! Whattya think?

Monday, July 13, 2009

and..they gave it back :)


After, what I would like to think was a response to my childish tatrum, JCrew has returned my yellow to their site. Actually- I think they even put them on sale ! Which brings me to an odd conundrum:

How soon is too soon to ask your bridesmaids to purchase dresses??

My ladies received their official "bridesmaid's invites" a little over a month ago , but my wedding is still 11 months away. I don't want to rush and have my ladies feel pressured to buy right away.

On the other hand, I LOVE these dresses and cannot imagine not liking them 10 months from now. The color and silhouettes are exactly what I always imagined. Plus- their on SALE.

What to do?